Help if your child is being bullied.
Advice and support for you and your family if your child is being bullied or involved in bullying.
Bullying is when someone is deliberately hurtful to someone over a period of time. The person being bullied usually finds it difficult to defend themselves. There are different types of bullying:
- physical: hitting, kicking, taking belongings
- verbal: name calling, insulting, making offensive remarks
- indirect: spreading nasty rumours about someone, not including them in social groups
- cyber bullying: bullying via the internet and mobile phones
Worried your child is being bullied?
Bullying is a serious problem and can be very upsetting for both you and your child.
Children may find it hard to talk about being bullied or bullying others. You may not be sure that your child is being bullied, but there are some signs that may suggest there is a problem. Look out for:
- Excuses to miss school, such as stomach complaints or headaches (or you child may be skipping school altogether)
- Torn clothes, school things that are missing or broken or lost money
- More scrapes and bruises than usual
- Signs of stress - being moody/silent or crying, or bullying younger or friend
- Bed wetting (usually in younger children)
- A change in eating habits
There could be other reasons for these symptoms, so don’t jump to conclusions. Is there anything else bothering you child? Have there been changes in your family like a new baby, a divorce or separation? Talk to your child and listen to what is worrying them.
Bullying at school
Research shows that most bullying takes place at school. Schools want to tackle bullying and to work with parents to do this. If you are worried that your child is being bullied at school, the first person to talk to you is your child’s class teacher.
These are some tips to guide you:
- Arrange a meeting
- Prepare and research
- Attend meetings such as parents evening
- Contact the head teacher
- Pursue further action
All of the SEAL (Social, Emotional Aspects of Learning) work that children learn throughout the year will contribute to helping them to understand and deal with bullying. For example they learn:
- To understand other people and take their feelings into account
- To respect and get on with other children and adults
- To see things from other people's points of view
- To sort out arguments fairly
- To take responsibility and stand up for themselves (without being aggressive)
- To make their own choices and not always 'go along with the crowd'
- To understand and deal with their feelings